The homely warmth and family intimacy that one feels when celebrating the birthday of someone from home or another relative, also on the occasion of Mother’s and Father’s Day, as well as the festive days at the end of the year and the New Year, among other encounters, In general, they become sacred occasions, satiated with joy, that settle longing for nostalgia and contemplate a great harmony.
Almost always, when one analyzes the opportunities in which a good part of the family gathers, one thinks of religious festivities, in the marked celebration for the first year of the boy or girl, then in their 15, which includes in addition to the celebration , sometimes with toasts and dancing in pairs, the photos and the days when they are taught to family, school friends and neighbors.
However, there is a very special one, a little forgotten due to its disuse, not only by young couples, but also by today’s generations of 40 and 50 years, and it is due, in a certain way, to the superficiality in which sadly It has fallen, many times due to the need for paperwork (due to paperwork), and other reasons covered by expenses and logistical issues that deserve effort.
It is not until doing so that a couple is able to imagine how pleasant and lasting in the memory of the bride and groom and guests, which are weddings, marriages or nuptials, as everyone wants to call the act, then, like no other day, by atypical and special that it is, in the same space and time, lifelong friends, close and distant family converge in the same space.
On my wedding day, between setbacks, characteristic of the occasion, when I arrived at the place, the excitement stirred me the nervousness I had because of the untouchable makeup and hairstyle, the train of my dress getting tangled, my feet saturated with band-aids by the blisters that they did not understand about heels, the stage fright of walking in front of everyone until they reached the altar.
But it did not matter the run for the flowers and decorations made by ourselves and finished an hour before the guests began to arrive. That scene of arriving, seeing all the family and friends together, with a genuine expression of joy for me was one of the most gratifying sensations, a photographic memory in my mind that I will never forget despite the years.
From siblings, to cousins and uncles, even from other provinces, who do not worry about sleeping tight, the feeling of grandparents to see their second generation of the family tree get married. The great childhood friends who have been with you for more than two decades. The funny guy who makes fun of jokes, the cousin who doesn’t stop taking pictures for Facebook.
Likewise, the grandmother is remembered who is impressed and sheds a couple of tears at the beginning with the intervention of the notary. Photos of the bride and groom with their parents, siblings, grandparents, uncles, cousins and friends. After the time to chop the cake, there will always be someone to smear you with meringue or play with it with the smallest cousin of the party. Later the toast.
I learned about weddings firstly from the black and white photos of my grandparents and parents, and in the same case also those of my husband’s family, some in color and others in black and white, and it is that despite being discolored, This did not interfere with the fact that with the passing of the years the images conveyed a delightful happiness and family union, a happiness such as very seldom beats again.
The formal union between two people, a step for the children (although nowadays it is not necessary to be married to have them), and to live alone (whoever marries, wants to marry), is more than a couple of rings and a marriage certificate , that day, a short chapter of time, even with few guests, is special and unforgettable like few things that are fully enjoyed in life.
