He marriage has ceased to be a bond unwavering to become an increasingly sensitive union rupture. This is reflected data of the National Civil Registry System Observatory (OSAREC), of the Central Electoral Board (JCE), which report 922,370 marriages and 424,390 divorces recorded in the last two decades.
These data are equivalent to a divorce for every 2.17 marriagesbeing the mutual consent and incompatibility of characters the main Causes.
From the point of view of the sociologist Cándido Mercedes, the increase in the marriage ruptures is due to the speed of changethe discharge technology and economic stability.
Marriage, like social phenomenondoes not escape at the speed with which everything is changing: work, technology and the way people relate. “We are in the presence of change of a period and an era of change, “said Mercedes.
The crisis It is not the marriage
For the academic, the crisis is not of the marriage, but of the Traditional model that no longer adapts to a society in transformation. As an example he cited the growth of the Economic independence of the woman, who has reduced the dependence of many wives of her partners.
He also indicated that economic, social and cultural dynamics change the relationship: “Before, the woman stayed, although the man had children out of marriage. Today, as no longer depends economically, she can decide to leave if she feels that the relationship does not contribute to her growth staff”, He pointed out.
He added that the concept of family has turned. “The family is no longer nuclear. 36 % of the Dominican family is single -parentdirected by the women. If you add that there are men who have children among men, women and grandparents, 46 % households are not mother and dad together, “he said.
Criminal Code
Mercedes pointed out the study of the new Criminal Code And he recalled that: “In all parties where the human being is, the woman is demonstrating that she is exactly the same as the man.”
Highlighting that, because of this, “everyone who has social sensitivity significantly repudiates that code that the Senate was approving, because it is a code viscord sexist against them women”
The role of technology
The sociologist highlighted the role played by the technology in increasing marriage ruptures: “The greatest social, cultural revolution that humanity has known since 90 to here is the Internet”
Stating that Digitization ha changed Not only the way of communicating, but the emotional bond between couples, due to immediacy. “It’s a huge revolution,” he said.
“That is the world in which we live, so the relationship has changed,” and added that, in this historical cycle in which humanity lives, it is necessary to “maintain part of the Modern life along with part of postmodern life. ”
Regarding values, he argued that humanity is trapped between “the values of modern society that do not have just disappeared” and “the values of the postmodern society that do not have just appeared”, which, in their opinion, “Generate crisis In the relationship”
“Joint Life Projects”
Mercedes advocated the current relations They are built on Life projects Shared, not only about the initial passion, which, he said, only lasts approximately two years.
“Today the relationship Between man and woman is more symmetric. And when that symmetry is broken, when one stops growing at the rhythm of the other, the separation is more likely, “he said.
“They have to add joint life project and grow together so that there is no Emotional separationbecause there the marriage broke there. If not, they can be physically together, but emotionally separated, and that is the fundamental weight, “he explained.
He divorce is natural
Mercedes explained that, although only 1 in 2.17 marriages ends in divorce“it is not so much the alarm”, well “is natural Today. “He said the women Today they have more rights.
He stressed that 43 % of women They are working, although they still face discrimination – they are less than men and have less access to jobs – but compared to the 80s, when very few worked outside the home, the change It is evident.
He added that marriage It is a project where they come into play dimensions emotional, Psychological and spiritual, “that’s why it’s so complex.”
