The sex positive movement promotes an open, free vision of sexuality that encourages experimentation based on safe sex and consent. In this way, called pro-sex or, in Spanish, sexual positivism, it is based on three fundamental principles: freedom, consent and pleasure.
In the newspaper La Vanguardia, in an interview with Arola Poch, a sexologist and promoter of the aforementioned sexual movement, she stressed that in said activity, practices of others are not judged, but on the contrary, it is applauded that everyone seeks their pleasure freely and following their own preferences, exceeding the social norm.
For Poch, sexuality is seen as a way of knowing and expressing ourselves. If it is imposed or repressed, we are limiting a part of ourselves: all experiences, better or worse, alone or in company, are important because they help us understand each other.
Nor does it mean that we spend all our free time having sex or that we are necessarily part of a swinger or polyamorous relationship. Being sex positive is not incompatible with monogamy, asexuality or celibacy: what this philosophy implies is the ability to decide when, how and with whom with complete freedom.
In this sense, the professional indicated that to be sex positive one must be erotophilic, that is, a positive attitude towards sexuality and erotics as one of the poles of the dimension. This without failing to always respect the sexual preferences of others without making moral assessments or trying to control them, with the premise of healthy and consensual sex.
HOW TO ENJOY IT
Having greater sexual satisfaction and living sexuality without feelings of guilt or shame, without cutting back when asking for what we want and rejecting what we don’t, encourages erotic encounters, orgasms and responsibility, as it helps to live in coherence with what we are and what we want.
Within this logic, one of the ways in which sex positive can be enjoyed includes casual sex, which refers to the practice of sex between people whose bond can be from once to several days, but who are normally motivated by the search for sexual pleasure and a low level of commitment.
In this regard, the newspaper La Vanguardia made a brief summary of the advantages of the aforementioned practice, which can, and should, be fun and enjoyable. It is also an opportunity to experiment, discover new pleasures and explore.
Likewise, if it is carried out with respect for the other person and the bond that is established, even for one night, moments of emotional intimacy can be generated. On the other hand, if you are at a point in your life where you would not like to have a relationship, the lack of commitment of casual sex can be seen as a plus point.
TYPES OF CASUAL SEX
According to the American psychoanalyst Paul Joannides.
1. With strangers
It often involves having sex with a total stranger whom you may have only met instantly. What makes it pleasant and achievable is that both people do not know each other completely, for which affective responsibility is totally out of the question and both individuals remain in the mutual agreement of enjoyment and pleasure.
2. Friends with benefits
It’s usually with someone you know, and it often happens more than once. Friends with benefits can be just for sex, or it can include hanging out; the fact that they are known can facilitate relationships for people who do not want to experiment with individuals outside their circle.
3. With an ex
In the case of having a lot of desire or when loneliness wins, calling an ex to have sex can help to get each other out. In the event that both of you have come out of your relationship maturely and without any resentment, this variant of casual sex can work for those who agree that the best part of their casual relationships was sex.
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The entrance Sex positive: The trend that is on the rise was first published in The Independent.
