The debate on sorority and its scope was highlighted by Argentine feminists when responding to the criticism that arose from the new theme that, under the title “BZRP Music Session #53”the Colombian singer Shakira broadcast today on digital media and social networks, where she makes an open allusion to the separation with ex-soccer player Gerard Pique.
The theme, sung by Shakira in collaboration with the Argentine DJ and producer Bizarrapis openly addressed to his ex-partner, the former Spanish soccer player Gerard Piqué, and his new partner and it was already listened to 45 million times last night and produced multiple reactions, for and against.
“They ask Shakira for sorority, but there is a confusion with these concepts, sorority is not that we have to be good to all women, even with those who betray us or those who hurt us, although in fact we do not know if that is the case,” he told Télam Lala Pasquinelli, founder of the “Mujeres que no fueron tapa” project.
Pasquinelli wondered why Shakira is required to be sorority and eventually we do not demand it from the other or we are not eventually sorority with Shakira.”
The founder of “Mujeres que no fueron tapa”, a project that has among its objectives “to show the way in which mass culture reproduces and builds gender stereotypes and mandates”, also assured that “it is her life experience and art what she can do with what happened to her, she never positioned herself as an icon of feminism”
For her part, the digital content promoter Florencia Freijo and “anthropologists” of the Gender Panopticonreflected an analysis on Instagram on gender issues that the song’s lyrics reveal.
“Shakira sang without fear of being the bad guy, without caring about the nickname spiteful, without staying silent” and she is “doing justice into her own hand,” Freijo said, noting that with the song, “a lot of young people are educated to don’t be distracted by a ‘pretty face’, ‘too much gym'”
“What happens in society that they come out to criticize Shakira and there are a lot of other male artists who spoke about their exes even in terms that border on femicide or gender violence and do not jump with tip caps? What generates Is that in society, everyone talking alarmed about sorority when nobody seems to be scared by other things?, that needs to be addressed,” the anthropologist Agustina Kupsch also from the Gender Panopticon.
“What happens in society that come out to criticize Shakira and there are a lot of other male artists who spoke about their exes even in terms that border on femicide or gender violence and do not jump with the tip caps?Florence Freijo
Shakira (45) and Piqué (35) announced their separation in June 2022after more than a decade together and two children together, Sasha and Milan, after learning of the athlete’s infidelity.
Pasquinelli, in turn, recalled that there are “millions” of tangos written with “applause, medals and kisses for spiteful guys”, but “for a woman it is unforgivable to break with the stereotype of the ‘good victim’ who stays at home crying , sad and evicted, there is no permission for that or to talk about money because she says at one point in the song ‘women no longer cry, now they bill’, something that seems spectacular to me”.
Finally, he stressed that Shakira “was able to do herself justice with this song.”
She concluded that it is important “to dismantle the very misogyny of demanding from women that they always have to do it differently, to be more good, tolerant, sorora, (…) what we never demand of men.”
In the same sense, Kupsch pointed out: “Feminism cannot be punitive in any way or set a moral bar on how we should act, you cannot ask a woman for more sorority because patriarchy has historically told us what we have to do.” do and how to relate.
From the account of the social network Instagram Panóptico de Género they pointed out that beyond the questioning about “whether it is feminist or not to target the current partner of an ex”, it is “more relevant” to highlight what is being questioned and what is being made invisible regarding of some messages that the singer revealed in her lyrics.
In this regard, they referred to the phrases “You left me (…) with the press at the door and the debt in the treasury”, to reflect on the high percentage of parents who, in Argentina, fail to pay their fees food and the detachment of care tasks and affective ties with their sons and daughters, according to studies carried out in the country and raised awareness about the fact that “many women do not initiate legal actions against their parents due to social condemnation”.
Meanwhile, regarding the phrase “women no longer cry, women bill”, they explained that “billing and generating money is seen culturally as a ‘men’s thing’ because it is related to ambition and leaving the private space”, and ambition “is not valued socially in the same way for men as for women”.
The ambitious woman is seen as “climbing, opportunistic” and the ambitious man as “determined, leader”they specified.
Regarding “ambition” they pointed out that “it has to do with power” and “it is very important that women want to have power, because it is the only way to really change things”.
Finally, he highlighted the phrase “Women don’t cry anymore, women bill” from the song as a concept that can probably “educate” hundreds of thousands of women who “even today remain silent and fearful, believing that their value is not should be expressed in money”.
