Probably most of us have fallen into the “is that I am like that”, that disguised excuse with which we usually think we can justify any action that we well know is not correct.
The worst thing is not that, but many times the people who listen to it accept it as if it were an absolute truth.
Shielding ourselves in this statement, if we get upset and yell, saying “I am like that” will make others justify our behavior by saying that perhaps “he is a very impulsive person”.
The use of this very concise combination of words hides behind the belief that being in a certain way is immovable, that we cannot change and that others have to put up with us because “we are like that”.
Well, I have news for you! Our personality or the way we act in certain situations and how we relate to the environment changes over time and we can modify it at will.
We are not nor do we think the same as when we were 15, our tastes are no longer the same and the way we see things less, if that changes, eventually the way we react to everything does.
What happens is, and I speak here from my own experience, that we fall in love with certain aspects of our personality and refuse to change them, even when they hurt others, including ourselves.
It reminds me of when I decided that I would always tell the truth, convincing myself that a direct truth that hurts was better than a lie that would eventually be discovered.
The thing is that I began to fall in love with my sincerity because it allowed me to even disguise offenses and when the other person inevitably caught it, I could simply say “it’s that I’m that sincere and direct”, as if that gave me a special right to to offend.
I clung to that and other attitudes that kept me safe from other things, because they made me look strong, I refused to change them and the “I am like that” did not come out of my mouth.
But of course! It is that this is the easy path, because change requires a tremendous effort and it is many times easier to maintain the same routines.
In addition, we refuse to reflect on whether this change can make us improve our lives and the lives of the people around us, because believe me, with this we find the motivation to strive.
It seems that we don’t care about the consequences of our behaviors because “I am like that”. And no, such a little phrase is nothing more than an excuse for not making an effort to change, a fair and necessary change.
Probably most of us have fallen into the “is that I am like that”, that disguised excuse with which we usually think we can justify any action that we well know is not correct.
The worst thing is not that, but many times the people who listen to it accept it as if it were an absolute truth.
Shielding ourselves in this statement, if we get upset and yell, saying “I am like that” will make others justify our behavior by saying that perhaps “he is a very impulsive person”.
The use of this very concise combination of words hides behind the belief that being in a certain way is immovable, that we cannot change and that others have to put up with us because “we are like that”.
Well, I have news for you! Our personality or the way we act in certain situations and how we relate to the environment changes over time and we can modify it at will.
We are not nor do we think the same as when we were 15, our tastes are no longer the same and the way we see things less, if that changes, eventually the way we react to everything does.
What happens is, and I speak here from my own experience, that we fall in love with certain aspects of our personality and refuse to change them, even when they hurt others, including ourselves.
It reminds me of when I decided that I would always tell the truth, convincing myself that a direct truth that hurts was better than a lie that would eventually be discovered.
The thing is that I began to fall in love with my sincerity because it allowed me to even disguise offenses and when the other person inevitably caught it, I could simply say “it’s that I’m that sincere and direct”, as if that gave me a special right to to offend.
I clung to that and other attitudes that kept me safe from other things, because they made me look strong, I refused to change them and the “I am like that” did not come out of my mouth.
But of course! It is that this is the easy path, because change requires a tremendous effort and it is many times easier to maintain the same routines.
In addition, we refuse to reflect on whether this change can make us improve our lives and the lives of the people around us, because believe me, with this we find the motivation to strive.
It seems that we don’t care about the consequences of our behaviors because “I am like that”. And no, such a little phrase is nothing more than an excuse for not making an effort to change, a fair and necessary change.
