Talking sincerely without hurting those around us is a common challenge in daily life. In the family, work or friendships, the way we communicate can be the difference between resolving a conflict or enlarging it.
Assertive communication arises here as a fundamental tool, since it allows to express what we think and feel clear, direct and respectful, without falling into aggression or submission. Mastering this communication style helps us avoid misunderstandings, to maintain healthier relationships and take care of our emotions and those of others.
“Developing assertive communication requires time and effort, but its long -term benefits are invaluable. Assertivity is an essential skill for personal and professional well -being,” says James Robles, director of the Psychology career at Franz Tamayo University, Unifranz.
The essence of assertive communication lies in the ability to express thoughts, needs and feelings with clarity and respect, defending our rights without going over others. This implies finding a balance; It is not about imposing or shutting up, but about building a dialogue in which both parties feel heard.
The academic points out that assertive communication is built from several pillars: self -knowledge, emotional management, empathy, active listening and the use of clear language. Its impact covers all areas of life: in the family environment it helps to resolve conflicts; In the academic he improves learning and collaboration; And in work a positive environment encourages, reducing misunderstandings and increasing productivity.
11 key tips to say clear things without hurting others
Speaking frankly does not mean talking without filters. According to Robles, “assertive communication allows us to be honest without hurting, expressing what we think with empathy and defending our ideas without damaging relationships.” Next, the eleven most important tips to achieve it:
1. Calm down and think before speaking: In moments of tension, the words blurred lightly can be more hurtful than a gesture. Before answering, breathe and reflect on what you want to communicate.
2. Speak in the first person: Express how you feel instead of pointing to the other. To say “it bothers me when you are late” is more respectful than accusing with phrases like “you are always late.”
3. Be concrete, but kind: Go straight to the point avoids confusion, but clarity must be accompanied by empathy and a respectful tone.
4. Take care of your nonverbal communication: gestures, tone of voice and posture also communicate. Although your words are friendly, a gesture of rejection can block dialogue.
5. Try empathy: Putting into the place of the other helps express ideas without damaging your self -esteem or your emotions.
6. Control your emotions: If rabies or frustration dominate conversation, it is preferable to pause and resume dialogue when you are calmer.
7. Do not impose your point of view: Assertivity implies defending your ideas without invalidating those of the other. Asking his opinion generates an atmosphere of mutual respect.
8. Acting active listening: Pay attention to what the other person says and feels. It is not a monologue, but an exchange in which both are heard.
9. Avoid emotional blackmail: Do not turn to manipulation or guilt to get what you want. Express honestly what you need.
10. Do not excuse bad words: Phrases like “I’m just being honest” do not justify a hurtful comment. Sincerity should never be synonymous with aggression.
11. Learn to put limits: Saying “no” clearly and respectful is part of assertive communication. Establishing limits does not mean rejecting the other, but taking care of yourself.
Mastering the art of saying clear things without hurting is not something that is achieved overnight. “Assertive communication is crucial in all areas of life, and although it demands practical, its benefits are durable and transformers,” adds the expert.
Learning to express ourselves with empathy, respect and firmness is a skill that is trained and must be taught from an early age. It is not just about improving our relationships, but also to strengthen our self -esteem, gain security and build healthier and human environments.
