The couple from Indiana, United States, decided to receive a third member in the relationship a year ago.
There is the saying “three is a crowd”, but it does not apply to the case of Sarah, a married American woman who fell in love with a man and invited him to live with her. She did not separate from her, her husband also lives with them.
Sarah Nicole is 39 years old and is a personal trainer from Indiana, USA. She lived in a monogamous relationship with her husband Ryan, 38, for six years. In 2020, they decided to turn their marriage into an open relationship and she got involved with Ronnie, 40, in 2021.
As she told The Mirror, Sarah always wanted to be in a polyamorous relationship. Both she and her husband flirted with other people, but hadn’t made the change in their relationship until Ryan proposed it two years ago.
Also read: What is polyamory and how to practice it without damaging the relationship
A new love
Ronnie was Sarah’s co-worker for four years.. However, Sarah never thought of coming on to him because, to her, neither of them was available at the time.
In 2021, Sarah was dating someone else for four months (while being married to Ryan) and, posting her sadness at the breakup on Facebook, Ronnie contacted her. Two years had passed without speaking.
“I had no idea Ronnie was polyamorous too until I confessed. and as soon as I knew he was too, I asked him out. We fell in love very much and very quickly,” Sarah confirmed to NeedToKnow.
This was a year ago, and they dated for a while before Ronnie met Sarah’s husband, who was supportive of the relationship from the start.
In an Instagram video, Sarah showed off the double queen bed in her room. (Photo: Instagram @pottymouthsarah1)
Ronnie then began staying in the couple’s home until eventually moving in with them in December 2021. Sarah and her husband had already weighed the pros and cons of having a third adult living in the home, and he liked the idea of have someone else to help with homework and childcare.
“We’re what’s considered a V-hinge relationship, they’re both in a relationship with me, but they’re not together,” Sarah explained to NeedToKnow.
“We practice what they call ‘dining room polyamory’, which is when all the members get along and spend time as if they were sitting at the table. This is the opposite of parallel polyamory, in which love partners never meet,” Sarah explained.
“Living together was necessary for me because of issues like guilt and not wanting to give up my responsibilities at home just because I wanted to spend time with my boyfriend,” the woman said.
Ryan and Sarah’s children, ages 10 and 7, also live in the home. On family weekend outings, Ronnie’s three children join in, whom Ryan treats as if they were his own.
At the time of clarifying the sentimental situation to her children, she explained that hers is a relationship as normal as others. “There are children who have two mothers or two fathers, several stepfathers; and there are children who have parents who love more people.”
Ronnie’s kids join in on family weekend outings. (Photo: Instagram @pottymouthsarah1)
Sarah claimed to have found out she was polyamorous in 2020 and felt liberated because she knew she could fall in love with other men despite being “madly in love” with her husband, who also never reproached her for flirting with others.
In addition to her work as a coach, Sarah has an Only Fans account and created a podcast in September of this year called MiddleSpoon where she talks about polyamorous relationships.
